Older men are supposed to find it easier than women of same age, but dating after a long gap is never easy. If you are starting out again with dating and have been out of the scene for a decade or more, then things can be pretty hard for you. The rules haven’t changed a lot, but dating today is vastly different compared to how it was even a decade ago.
Most men are aware of the important dating rules they need to adhere to. They also know of the part smart dressing and good manners play in finding success in the field of dating. But sometimes many of these rules do not offer much help in real life, especially if you are in your late 40’s or 50’s.
Your attitude and approach to dating are determined to an extent by your personality type. An outgoing, social and extroverted character may find it easier to ask a girl out or get her number. With age comes confidence and self-assurance and that could put you ahead of the game as compared to the younger men out there.
So, here are a few tips for older men newly dating after a long gap.
1) Tap the Available Resources
When you were young, you probably preferred to hang out at the club or at the bar to meet girls. Pubs and bars are still great places to get a date, but the opportunities are endless if you go online.
The Web is the hangout place for most of the world’s population. You get to meet and chat with women of all backgrounds, interests and ages. There are dating sites that specially cater to older men and women, and they are hugely popular. So browse through and decide whether you would like to put up your profile.
Dating apps are convenient, fun and easy. If you are not sure whether you are young enough for Tinder, consider other dating apps like OKCupid, PlentyofFish, OurTime or Senior People Meet that have millions of members wanting to start a relationship. You can choose to keep things casual until you find the woman who is the perfect match.
2) Upload Quality Profile Photos
The profile photo you upload affects the success of your profile immensely.
Your main photo should be clear and of high quality, and most importantly, a recent one. If you want to put up your old pictures make them your secondary ones. This will surely add character, interest and dimensions to your overall profile, and do try to caption the pictures with the year they were taken in. They will help tell an interesting story to someone browsing casually.
Do not put up profile photos that show you in sunglasses or are of poor quality. It won’t be surprising if women are put off by a guy hiding his eyes.
Family photos with ex-wife or kids, group photos with buddies and poorly edited or cropped photos all work badly as profile photos. So when creating your online profile, invest some thought before uploading pictures.
3) Be Straightforward and Humorous, and Maintain Online Manners
One of the biggest attractions that older men have for women is that they are established, financially secure, confident, mature and dependable. Ensure that you let these qualities shine through in your online profile and when you meet women.
The relationship between younger women and older men are no longer uncommon or exceptions. If you do not want to be bugged by eager young girls, it is important that you mention the preferred age group of partner on your online profile. Conversely, if you want to date younger girls mention that as well.
Make it a point to revert on all messages and mails you receive. If you are not interested, decline politely. This is classy, considerate and mature and is essentially what differentiates you from a self-obsessed 20-something.
4) Meet New People
The more you go out and meet new people, the better are your chances of meeting your future date. Do you know that there are several books out there that are especially targeted at people looking to find love late in life? Some of them even offer e-book formats as free product samples for you to have a look. Follow a proactive approach and ensure that you do not wait for love to come looking for you.
At your age, you will be better established in your business or corporate career, giving you several opportunities to meet like-minded people at social and corporate events. Find women with whom you share common interests and passions, and see if you can take your friendship further. Make it a point to dress well and according to the occasion. A sharp suit is the best attire to wear to a business event and is sure to notch up your attractiveness quotient.
The expectations women your age have from a relationship will be more or less similar to yours. Companionship, excitement, laughter, fun and physical intimacy are things that people of all age groups desire in a relationship, but older men and women also have the wisdom and self-awareness to work toward realizing their goal.
It is true that it is never too late for love. No matter what stage of life you are in, give love a chance and see the miracles it can bring.